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Three Weddings And A Funeral

by Chris Monti

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Caroline and Matt's Wedding Song -chris monti Oh sister, on your wedding day What helpful things can your brother say? When we first met back in ‘79 I knew we would have a real good time You’ve done everything right that I could not do But still, you love me and I love you You’ve got wide arms and a watermelon heart And a good sense of family and that’s the best place to start We’ve become good friends over the course of out lives And now we’re old enough to talk about husbands and wives Oh brother and sister, on your wedding day What helpful things can your brother say? Times will get tough but you can work through that part Just listen carefully and keep an open heart Take care of each other through thick and thin No matter what situation you find you’re stuck in Listen to each other and talk it through And remember that the other is in love with you Love is something we can’t understand It doesn’t fit in our brains, it doesn’t fit in our hands It doesn’t do to keep it and you can’t give it away But be quiet and listen for it And it can help you make your way… love …oh sister and brother on your wedding day © 2012 Chris Monti
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Roseanne and Marcus’s Wedding Song --written by Chris Monti I had my first band back in 1981, a marching band, I played the drum—Auntie Connie’s welcoming-home-the-baby parade. Roseanne came home on a stormy day, a felled tree across the driveway blocking the way. They wrapped her up tight walked the last stretch to the house and the music played Holding Baby Rose in the orange chair in my race-car PJ’s in my short hair—the first inklings of the responsibilities of the Big Brother. We began to disagree at an early age I think fighting you taught me how to yell and curse—stupid childhood fights over Rights and space—I was so coarse as a boy, I’m sorry You were the first one to go away to stay, South Carolina then Louisiana way. What is it of the southern temperament that fits you? Maybe someone you met down there? The Montis—three generations of Italian Americans are a family of the Northeast. We love the bay, the mountains, the 4 seasons, but now due to reasons involving by a certain southern boy, we’ve expanded our geography. I made my 1st trip to Louisiana for the engagement party. We were so well-received by the Eagans – even the dirty hippie of the family—as I might have appeared at the time. I felt so welcome and I got to sit-in with the Dixieland band So now Roseanne & Marcus are wed, share the same house, share the same bed. Will take on the responsibility of family, to pass on the lessons of our common humanity Both of you are hardworking and have a competitive drive—you’ll do well for yourselves I have no doubt, but remember at heart what life is about—understanding, love, compassion. Not what you wear or own or some fleeting fashion. Ask “How are you?” and “How can I help?” Use your talents & good fortune for the benefit of everyone else In your every move and action together, arguments like lead weights – easy love like a feather, your families are here for support and advice. Ask for it once, twice, three times/ We’ll never turn our backs on you, we’ll never turn you away. Don’t forget in your busy work lives, there is only one thing that persists and survives. And it is not love – it is the action of love, the act of compassion. Listen carefully for the heartbeat of the world – The heartbeat of wind and rocks of rain of every living thing. This beat is the same as the pulse within your own chest. The love that’s love for everything is the love that is the best So brother and sister at your wedding time, thank you for listening to the thoughts on my mind. My self-righteous admonitions to be good and be kind Roseanne, as children we fought like cats and dogs, bleating like sheep and snorting like hogs. I will always tell you when I think you are wrong, even in your wedding-day song. But I love you, I love you, I love you and I will always be here for you Maurice Francis Eagan the Third, my new brother, our lifestyles are miles apart from each other. In marriage you’ve taken my sister’s hand, so I offer you my hand too in a brotherly shake. I’m here for help and advice as you and Roseanne a family make Roseanne and Maurice, we offer you our prayers of love, our prayers of peace © (p) 2012 Chris Monti
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Alex and Doug’s Wedding Song written by Chris Monti Friends and family we’re gathered here today Our love to express, out respect to pay For what we hope is the marital bliss Of the union of Doug and my little sis Starting out a life together Sun and storm to ride and weather A family to raise, a home to make No doubt quick on the heels of cutting the cake The Nisbets and Montis have long known each other Each family lead by a strong father and mother We each welcome the other, sisters and brother’s all A bond made stronger by today’s church-bell call I first met Doug when he was nine years old I never imagined he would be so bold To take my sister to have and to hold Till they’re slow and gray and wrinkled and old Doug I welcome you last as I welcomed Matt first and Marcus in the middle, who amongst you three is the most cursed With the particular tornado of the woman you’ve chosen Burning fiery hot and icily frozen? Doug, the simplest and the best advice I can give is, “Let her win and she might let you live” Alex, you can truly be a pain in the ass Always trying to be the boss even though you were born last But I really do love you despite every fight Including the one we’ll probably have later tonight Your sister and brother love and respect you And we try to let go of our need to always protect you But still you are our little sis And after the dulling of this wedding day bliss We’ll reveal ourselves older and wiser again and don’t be bitter But you’ll be back to being the runt of the litter In seriousness, Al… Thanks Alex for being so supportive and understanding Of a brother whom I know is very demanding Not all siblings are friends and out friendship means a lot Even when it burns a little too hot So Alex and Dougie, on your wedding day There are a few last things that I’d like to say… There is something under the surface of life Before love or hate, before man and wife There is a whisper of a melody as thin as a hair Its a call to attention a call to be here No matter your job or life situation Always listen carefully for that subtle vibration It’s the tuning note of the love you feel for your beloved There is no note below and no note above it Don’t hold too tight to your opinions and ideas To the things that you love, the things that you fear And know that every action resonates Through all of time and space As you renew with marriage This life you’ve shared for fifteen years We toast and laugh and shed some tears We wish you well and we wish you the best And offer our love and support as you face each test © 2012 Chris Monti
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Rosina Viola (Grandma Rose’s Song) written by Chris Monti I don’t think I’ve held up my end, my life long friend I’ve taken much more than I’ve given, out of fear I’ve left so much hidden Every time I see you, I feel love mixed with regret Your mind is withered from so many days And I fail you in the most basic ways It’s my job to come often and sit by your side Not to ponder whether you live or die In that matter my hands are tied Still I can visit and play for you and sing This is what I have to share, This is what I have to bring The evening is growing near Still we have a meal to prepare A feast for all of our friends and relations And enemies and strangers, for all of creation And what will be the dish? Of course nothing but a little bread and a little fish You ask that we bow our heads to pray To give thanks for the food and thanks for the day But I find I have nothing to say, not a thing But I open my mouth and with love and thanks sing The shadows are growing long as I lay you down to sleep And play you one last lullaby and put my lips to your cheeks I slip quietly from the room, by the light of a pale and waning moon It breaks my heart to leave you here But I know I’ll see you again My timeless friend The world is wide… as my love is near Tear away the blinds, pull off the mask Cut the chord that binds you hands Loose the hobble that holds your legs Even in the bitter end, time and space can bend Grace can appear, suddenly as a tear, moving down your cheek Suddenly the way is clear, you’ve known the route all along You are the horse, the carriage, the rider You are the one who sings this song Fly on… Weightless and free The life and love we’ve shared will always be with us Will always be with me © 2012 Chris Monti
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about

The wedding songs collected here were written for my three sisters and their husbands and performed at their wedding receptions. In all cases the songs were written within a few days of the weddings and in two cases were still under construction the day of.

"Rosina Viola Querceto" is the name on my Grandma Rose's birth certificate. I worked on Rosina Viola for the last two years of her life and completed it the night before her funeral; we buried her the morning of New Years Eve 2010. My sister Alex gave a fine eulogy and then I played this song; two very different but complimentary tributes. I think I can sum up my relationship with my Grandma by quoting something she said to me well into her sad descent into Alzheimer's disease, when in the midst of the confusion and paranoia that disease produces she would occasionally say the most beautiful, poetic things: "You're not just my friend, you're also my grandson."

The instrumental songs here were all written for friends in the wash of spontaneous upwellings of affection and with the same spirit of love and thanks that I think permeates the songs for my sisters and Grandma.

Thanks to my Mom and Dad, Sylvia and Peter, for their constant love and support. Thanks to my extended family, especially Grandma Mary who is sharp and eagle-eyed at 92, and to my grand-folks who have passed, but whom I was lucky enough to know: Comincio Ciccarone, Joe Martino, Bill and Cecelia Gannon, and last but not least, Gaetano Arnilo Biagio Vincenzo Monti.

Special thanks to MWM, Inger, Iva, SS, JWGH and Lucinda Jane.

-Chris Monti
Winter 2012

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released January 3, 2013

Recorded and mixed at Machines With Magnets on 6 June 2012. Produced by Chris Monti. Engineered, recorded and Edited by Seth Manchester. Mixed by Seth, Chris, and Keith Souza. Mastered by Keith. Cover art by Lucinda Jane Churchill. Design by Chris and Caitlin Gaylord Churchill.
All Songs Written By Chris Monti © ℗ 2012

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Chris Monti Providence, Rhode Island

Known for his effortless style and musical curiosity, Chris has immersed himself in West African guitar, dug deep into country-blues and old-time music, and moves seamlessly between diverse styles from Egypt, Peru and India. He has toured the East Coast, Canada and points west. He also enjoys his singular role in the community as a strange combination of entertainer, educator, and magician. ... more

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